Rules of the Road

My cubicle is like the Bermuda Triangle.  I claim that it “all has a system.”  Lies, all lies.  The amount of paper piled up would make the Amazon shudder.

So it’s quite astonishing that I still have this little index card I received several years ago, from all things, a Bobbi Brown advertisement.  It’s a little orange card entitled, “10 Tips for Happiness.”  It’s obvious that this quest for joy has been a journey for a while, as is evident from the tack marks and bent corners.

1. Spread beauty – this is a bit deep for so late an evening.  But I suppose the easiest and most effective way to do this is through kindness and smiles.  “An optimist laughs to forget, a pessimist forgets to laugh.”

2. Do what you love – our daily routine often gets fogged up with, well, daily routine.  I think there needs to be a moment of everyday where we do something we love.  Whether it’s reading a great novel on our commute home instead of a homework assignment (guilty), watching hulu instead of writing a paper (ahem), or eating ice cream for dinner (what are you looking at??)

3.   Love what you do – this is a journey that has the most frequent flier miles, for there is no one who hasn’t questioned their life’s calling at one point, or everyday, hypothetically speaking, of course.  What do I like?  Is there a career path for a horse-loving, movie-addicted, athletic, can-drink-you-under-the-table book worm with a sports obsession?

We all take those Myers – Briggs tests so that a statistically inconclusive questionnaire can decipher who we truly are.  But knowing I’m Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging doesn’t tell me anything I don’t know.  So what am I supposed to DO with that exactly?  Nothing really.  This is the part where we’re supposed to crawl inside our 8 year-old selves and ask what we were passionate about.  What drove us then, when stress, money, and responsibility were not words we recognized?

4.  Keep it simple – things are not complex, we make them complex.  Enough said.  See, now that’s keeping it simple.

5.  Laugh out loud –   For those that don’t, it’s not about practicing.    It’s about taking life a little less seriously.  Even when the sadness is with you, the ability to laugh is like exhaling.  Anger and laughter can occur at the same time, they’re mutually exclusive.

6.  Go with the flow –  Because we get handed things all the time that are unfair – but I guess the whole lesson is to embrace the surprises that life has to offer.  Ugh.  I mean, YAY!

7.  Be real – Embrace your weird, fly your freak flag.  Be real because it’s too exhausting to be anything else.

8.  Focus on the positive – it goes without saying that this is my least favorite, because I’m at odds with the Universe when it comes to why things happen.  But gratitude can go a long way, and as I have learned, thoughts become things.  “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.” – Henry Ford

9.  Do your best – that’s what’s helpful about being Type A, there’s no other alternative.  But on lazy days, it’s all about offering what you can that day.  No more, no less.

10.  Just breathe –  My yoga teacher always says, “Don’t forget to breathe.” In the rough times, it’s the only thing that we have done all day.  And that’s ok, because when it comes down to it, it’s the most important thing, isn’t it….


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